- Have you eaten in the last 4ish hours?
- Have you had something to drink today?
- Can you have something, even if just milk or water or cup’o’noodles or toast with something yummy on it, if you haven’t, please?
- If you have any injuries, can you please take care of them for me
- Also please take any meds if you should and haven’t, yet?
Whatever you have or haven’t done today just know you’re super strong and I am so proud of you
Okay you can go back to blogging now~ <3
(via myqueersexytime)Posted on July 25, 2014 at 2:14 PM
Posted on July 25, 2014 at 2:01 PM자꾸만 네가 떠올라, Sinking of you, Daehyun Kim, 2010
The Korean title translates into “i keep thinking of you,” but it literally means “you keep floating up”
and then the English title is “Sinking of you”
so when you think of another person, that mentally woven image will float up to the surface beyond your reach
while you are weighted down by your own obsession
why test on animals when there are prisons full of rapists
because the prisons aren’t actually full of rapists
the rapists run free and the prisons are full of people charged with weed possession
(via badtashy)Posted on July 25, 2014 at 10:29 AM
Posted on July 24, 2014 at 6:01 PM
im just gonna keep reblogging this because EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ AND REBLOG (NOT JUST LIKE) THIS RITE NOW. i havent read a post on tumblr that covered so many important points on transmisogyny in queer spaces so well in a long time. and seeing as how no one ever seems to really have these conversations, it makes it all the more important. SO READ AND REBLOG IT DAMMIT.
My doctor, who is a trans woman, and I had a conversation today about the guy who raped me earlier this year. At first she was like “did you charge him?” When I explained that he’s a trans man of colour, she immediately got why I hadn’t. Not because I couldn’t bare to put a trans person, especially a trans person of colour, in jail (which I can’t), but also because it would cause me to be completely ostracized by the queer/trans community in Toronto. I’d be “just another crazy trans woman.” It was an uncomfortable realization for both of us to sit there, as trans women, knowing that we have literally no recourse when violence is enacted on us within the community (though if the same violence conveniently came from a white cis straight man, we would be celebrated as heroes for standing up to such an easy target, at least within the queer/trans community).
She and I both, as professionals in the community, are well aware of the fine line we have to walk in order to be taken seriously in the queer/trans community. We not only have to look a certain way (both in terms of passing and in terms of conforming to queer normative acceptable standards of appearance), we also have to make sure not to rock the boat too much. We have to appear as sane and calm as possible, no matter the circumstances. If we show too much emotion at any time (read: any inconvenient emotion), we get hit with a double-whammy of misogyny and transphobia, quickly written off as hysterical “crazy trans women.” Accuse the wrong person of something, anyone too close to queer-home, and that’s the end of our credibility and the revoking of our entrance passes to Queerlandia.
It’s exhausting having to walk such a fine line. I’ve found that there are so many “danger zones” to watch out for. Trans women have to not only be queer-literate (knowing queer social justice language), we have to be exceptionally good at using it. Any minor slip of language or politics and we’re labeled “crazy trans women” by cis people while trans men nod knowingly in agreement — rarely standing up for us, and just as often perpetuating the ‘crazy trans woman’ stereotype themselves.
I became aware of this initially through cryptic warnings from an older queer trans woman friend of mine, years before I became involved in the queer community, but I didn’t realize the extent of it at first. That is, until I was invited to participate in it. When I first became involved heavily, I befriended two trans men whom I looked up to a great deal, and one of the first conversations we had in private was a gossip session in which they “warned” me about various trans women and got me to agree that they were “crazy.” I’ve found similar conversations throughout the community, often used in a way that it makes me wonder if what’s really happening is that they’re subconsciously testing my loyalty to the queer zeitgeist. Am I good tranny or a bad tranny? Am I willing to be part of their clique, giving them the ability to deflect any and all criticism of transmisogyny, or am I a “problem?”
Before I realized that this was a system, that trans women were being systematically tested and written off, I engaged in it myself. You get a self-esteem boost, knowing that the cool kids don’t count you among those trans women. Those trans women who stepped on the wrong toes, who take up “too much space,” who don’t have the right guilt-producing identity complex to be worthy of space (disabled young trans sex workers of colour who vogue are considered highly prized friend-accessories, to be seen but not really heard beyond the occasional “gurl” for comedic effect, but only if they have the right haircut and the right clothes and are working towards a bachelors of gender studies or similarly useless degree).
Who are these “crazy trans women?” Often they are incredibly sincere activists who haven’t had the privilege of being taught all of the ins and outs of anti-oppression social justice practice that is a prerequisite to membership in this queer community. Often they are labeled “too emotional” and “too angry,” “loose cannons” who are out of control when speaking about our experiences of sex work that don’t fit into the easily digestible “I do queer feminist porn on weekends to pay for my fluevogs while I’m in grad school” vision of sex work that the queer community has deemed acceptable. Often they are trans women who are said to take up “too much space,” while everyone whispers about how “you know, I know it’s wrong to say, but she just seems like she has male privilege, you know? Like you can just feel it. Not that I’m saying she’s a man, but, you know, you never know.”
At the end of the day, this whole complex of issues is simply misogyny, ableism, and transphobia dressed up as “community accountability.” It holds trans women to impossible standards, opening us up to vulnerability to all forms of in-community violence (physical, sexual, social), and creating a fear within the minds of so many queer trans women that our second-class position within the queer community could be ripped from our hands at any time for any minor infraction.
I’m tired of trying not to be a crazy trans woman in the voyeuristic eyes of queer community.
Morgan M Page/Odofemi, 2013.
this is incredibly important.
i’ve been threatened with the “crazy trans woman” label just for saying “no”, or for setting some basic boundary that most people take for granted. there is zero room for error for trans women in queer/feminist communities, no matter how hard they try to fit in. minor mistakes or even just plain disagreeing with someone else turns into a lifelong punishment and ordeal, where for a cis person or a Good Trans Person that would be a blip.
it truly is a way to sexually, mentally, and physically exploit people who have nowhere else to go. the emphasis on perfect social justice performance also punishes people who came up poor and/or disabled or anything that excludes you from socialization.
until i spoke out against bullying, i was considered one of the good ones. but i had to say, why are you picking on suicidal teenagers? why are you harassing women for years because of incredibly minor things they apologized for?
and the truth is, the mythology around most “crazy” trans women is inflated and downright fabricated. i have witnessed incidents where people deliberately lied about trans women in front of my eyes and others bought those lies. it’s not a misunderstanding, it’s a deliberate erasure that most people participate in.
how do people’s minds work? is it like the misunderstanding of independent probability for coin tosses? if you flip a Bad Tranny do you have a higher chance of getting a Good Trans Woman next flip?
plenty of trans women have problems and we do not always have the energy to help them, but this gloating whispering hateful superior attitude is abhorrent to me. for me, it is difficult to feel anything but sorrow, even against the people who have hurt me most.
i stand up for “crazy” trans women. how dare you have any attitude but to uplift your sisters from the torment and misery of this world. either help your fellow trans women or get out of the way.
—Sarah Schulman, Rat Bohemia (via filth-thezine)
(via thefilthofhealth)Posted on July 24, 2014 at 2:01 PM
Posted on July 23, 2014 at 2:01 PM
The powers that be in the Democratic Party, including President Obama, have made charter schools their main vehicle for educational renewal in low-income communities, and there are more than a few civil rights leaders and elected officials in Black and Latino communities who view them as a chance to give families in their neighborhoods better educational opportunities. We have now had six years of strong support for charters from the Obama administration, backed up by Race to the Top money.
It is time to ask some hard questions. In the past six years, have charters:
1. Narrowed the gap in educational achievement by race and class, whether measured by test scores, high school graduation rates, college completion rates, or more holistic measures?
2. Helped to stabilize and improve inner city neighborhoods and protect them from gentrification, displacement and demographic inversion (moving the poor out of cities into the suburbs)?
3. Created a stable force of talented committed teachers in inner city communities, many of whom live in the communities they teach in?
4. Helped reduce neighborhood and school violence or disrupt the school-to-prison pipeline in any important way?
If the answer to all or most of these questions is no (and it is), advocates for public education need to have an honest conversation with the civil rights community about charters, understanding the basis of community support for these schools while respectfully pointing out how real-estate interests, profiteers and ambitious politicians have taken what began as an experiment and turned it into a scorched-earth policy that may well be doing more harm than good.
In all too many cities — New York City, Chicago, Newark, Detroit, Philadelphia– the creation of charters during the Obama presidency has not been a slow, incremental policy crafted and implemented with careful community consultation, but rather a dramatic transformation of the educational landscape made possible by the mass closing of public schools that have served communities for decades, often over the protests of neighborhood residents.
The sheer number of these closings — 168 in New York City over the last four years, 47 in Chicago in the last year — as well as the speed with which they have occurred, have been unprecedented in the history of U.S. education.. The result has been destabilization of neighborhoods, weakening of teachers unions, and mass firings of veteran teachers — many of them teachers of color — all done with the support of the U.S. Department of Education as part of its Race to the Top policy. Though these measures have been justified as advancing educational opportunity in inner-city communities — and have been indeed promoted as a “civil rights” measure by Obama administration officials — we need a careful evaluation of the results on students, families and communities before closings and charter formation on a grand scale are brought to other cities.
To date, they have not produced the results they promised.
what does it mean to fight misogyny & femmephobia as a person with disabilities when the party line is “femme/femininity isn’t frail/weak” but yr body sometimes is? are fragility & weakness so inherently bad that they need to be recast & reclaimed as strengths instead of being recognized as an inevitable part of being alive/our experiences? do i always have to be strong/what are we investing in strength/why are we investing so much in strength?
(via thefilthofhealth)Posted on July 22, 2014 at 6:01 PM